It’s been less than eleven months since I last posted on this, but now a full year of a committed relationship with a Dom, so I thought it apt to take the time to review and reflect. I found in going through this checklist that many of my boundaries have shifted. Much of that is due to Sir’s lovely deviant but kind influence. Some is due to exploration I’ve had on my own. I am starting to feel that this particular checklist only dimly shows the changes that have taken place during this year’s journey. There’s no place to tick off all the different kinds of sensory play I’ve done, the roles I’ve taken on in online play, the different kinds of bondage we’ve done and positions we’ve tried. I may have to search for another checklist or construct my own 
In any event, here is the checklist again, updated. I eliminated some areas that are completely non-negotiable hard limits such as breath play, bestiality, and bodily functions. Some experience is online only, some self play only, some historical, but I still feel it counts.
BONDAGE
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Blindfolds |
x |
High | ||
| Bondage (light) |
x |
High | ||
| Bondage (heavy) | High | |||
| Bondage (multi-day) |
x |
High | ||
| Bondage (public, under clothing) |
x |
High | ||
| Leather restraints | High | |||
| Chains |
x |
High | ||
| Ropes |
x |
High | ||
| Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage |
x |
High | ||
| Rope body harness |
x |
High | ||
| Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) | Medium | |||
| Harnesses (leather) | Medium | |||
| Harnesses (rope) |
x |
High | ||
| Cuffs (leather) | High | |||
| Cuffs (metal) |
x |
High | ||
| Manacles & Irons | Medium | |||
| Gags (cloth) |
x |
Medium | ||
| Gags (rubber) | Hard limit | |||
| Gags (tape) | Hard limit | |||
| Gags (phallic) | Hard limit | |||
| Gags (ring) | Hard limit | |||
| Mouth bits | Soft limit | |||
| Full head hoods | Hard limit | |||
| Mummification/saran wrapping | Low | |||
| Strait jackets | Medium | |||
| Sleepsacks | Low | |||
| Spreader bars | Medium |
CONFINEMENT/SUSPENSION
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Cages (locked inside of) | Medium | |||
| Cells/Closets (locked inside of) |
x |
Medium | ||
| Stocks | Soft limit | |||
| Suspension (upright) | High | |||
| Suspension (horizontal) | High | |||
| Suspension (inverted) | Low |
IMPACT/PERCUSSION
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Spanking |
x |
High | ||
| Flogging |
x |
High | ||
| Single-tail whips |
x |
High | ||
| Canes |
x |
High | ||
| Belts | Low | |||
| Leather straps | High | |||
| Riding crops |
x |
High | ||
| Hairbrushes |
x |
High | ||
| Wooden paddles |
x |
High | ||
| Breast slapping |
x |
Low | ||
| Breast whipping | Soft limit | |||
| Pussy/cock whipping |
x |
Medium | ||
| Slapping/Punching (back, buttocks, chest) | Soft limit | |||
| Strapping (full body beating) | High | |||
| Hair pulling | High | |||
| Face slapping | Hard limit |
SEXUAL ACTIVITY
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Vaginal sex |
x |
High | ||
| Oral sex |
x |
High | ||
| Swallowing semen |
x |
High | ||
| Hand jobs (giving) |
x |
High | ||
| Hand jobs (receiving) |
x |
High | ||
| Anal sex | High |
x |
||
| Anal plugs (small) |
x |
High | ||
| Anal plugs (large) |
x |
Low | ||
| Anal plug (public, under clothes) |
x |
High | ||
| Anal beads |
x |
High | ||
| Figging/radishing |
x |
High | ||
| Vaginal dildo |
x |
High | ||
| Vibrator on genitals |
x |
High | ||
| Dilation | Soft limit | |||
| Masturbation |
x |
High | ||
| Fisting (vaginal) | Medium |
x |
||
| Fisting (anal) | Soft limit |
x |
||
| Speculums (vaginal) |
x |
Low | ||
| Speculums (anal) | Soft limit |
x |
||
| Oral/anal play (rimming) | Low |
x |
||
| Double penetration (oral and vaginal) | fantasy | |||
| Double penetration (oral and anal) | fantasy | |||
| Double penetration (vaginal and anal) |
x |
High | ||
| Triple penetration | fantasy | |||
| Forced homosexuality | N/A | |||
| Forced masturbation |
x |
Medium | ||
| Phone sex (serving Dom) |
x |
Medium | ||
| Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends) | Hard limit | |||
| Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) | Medium | |||
| Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) | Medium | |||
| Strap-on-dildos (wearing) | Medium | |||
| Group Sex |
x |
Medium | ||
| Outdoor sex |
x |
Medium | ||
| Orgasm control |
x |
Medium | ||
| Sexual deprivation (short term) |
x |
Medium | ||
| Sexual deprivation (long term) |
x |
Low | ||
| Swapping (with one other couple) |
x |
Hard limit | ||
| Swinging (multiple couples) | Hard limit | |||
| Threesomes (two male, one female) |
x |
Low | ||
| Threesomes (one male, two females) |
x |
High |
SENSATION PLAY
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Abrasion | Medium | |||
| Scratching |
x |
High | ||
| Being bitten | Medium | |||
| Tickling |
x |
Medium | ||
| Kissing |
x |
High | ||
| Violet wand | High | |||
| Tens units |
x |
High | ||
| Zapping (e.g. electric fly swatter) | Low | |||
| Ice cubes |
x |
High | ||
| Wax Play |
x |
High | ||
| Cupping |
x |
High | ||
| Fire cupping | High | |||
| Fire play | High | |||
| Drumming | High | |||
| Knife Play |
x |
Medium | self-play | |
| Clothespins |
x |
Medium | ||
| Sensory deprivation |
x |
High | ||
| Hot oils (on genitals) | High |
CUTTING/PIERCING/BODY MODIFICATION
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Cutting |
x |
Medium | self-play | |
| Branding | Soft Limit | |||
| Scarification | Soft limit | |||
| Tattooing | Soft Limit | |||
| Injections |
x |
Hard Limit | ||
| Piercing (temporary, play pierce) | Low | |||
| Piercing (permanent) |
x |
High | self-play | |
| Catheterization |
x |
Hard limit |
HUMILIATION
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Teasing |
x |
Hard limit | ||
| Humiliation (private) |
x |
Hard limit | ||
| Humiliation (public) |
x |
Hard limit | ||
| Verbal humiliation |
x |
Hard limit | ||
| Being spit on | Hard limit | |||
| Washing mouth out with soap | Soft limit | |||
| Objectification (art, furniture…) | Low | |||
| Shaving (body hair) |
x |
High | ||
| Shaving (head hair) | Hard limit | |||
| Slutty clothing (private) |
x |
High | ||
| Slutty clothing (public) |
x |
Medium | ||
| Outdoor scenes |
x |
Medium | ||
| Public exposure |
x |
Medium |
BODY-PART TORTURE
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Cock and Ball torture (male) |
x |
Medium | ||
| Gates of Hell (male) | ||||
| Ball stretchers | ||||
| Ball crushers | ||||
| Riding the “horse” (crotch torture) | Medium | |||
| Nipple clips |
x |
Medium | ||
| Nipple weights |
x |
Medium | ||
| Nipple suction cups |
x |
Low | ||
| Clit clips |
x |
Low |
FETISHES
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Feet |
x |
High | ||
| Boots | Low | |||
| High heels |
x |
Soft limit | ||
| Chastity devices | Low | |||
| Corsets | Low | |||
| Masks | Low | |||
| Cross-dressing |
x |
High | ||
| Gender-bending |
x |
High | ||
| Gas masks | Soft limit | |||
| Feathers | High | |||
| Fabrics | High | |||
| Lingerie |
x |
Medium | ||
| Lace |
x |
Medium | ||
| Nylon |
x |
Medium | ||
| Silk |
x |
Medium | ||
| Leather clothing |
x |
Medium | ||
| Rubber/latex/PVC clothing | Low | |||
| Spandex clothing | Medium | |||
| Panties | Medium | |||
| Pantyhose | Medium | |||
| Uniforms | Medium | |||
| Pregnancy | Hard limit | |||
| Lactation | Hard limit | |||
| Food | Hard limit |
GENERAL ROLEPLAYING
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Fear play | Medium | |||
| Fantasy abandonment | Medium | |||
| Kidnapping | Medium | |||
| Interrogation | Medium | |||
| Sleep deprivation | Low | |||
| Rape | Medium | |||
| Gang bang | Soft limit | |||
| Whore play | Low | |||
| Initiation rites | Medium | |||
| Religious scenes | Soft limit | |||
| Medical scenes |
x |
Medium | ||
| Prison scenes | Medium | |||
| Schoolroom scenes | Medium | |||
| Fantasy scenarios (pirates, aliens, vampires, bikers…) | Medium | |||
| Wrestling | Medium | |||
| Hypnotism |
x |
Low | ||
| Mind Control | Soft limit | |||
| Feminization | Low |
SERVICE AND BEHAVIOUR
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Following orders |
x |
High | ||
| Forced servitude | Medium | |||
| Restrictive rules on behaviour | High | |||
| Eye contact restrictions | Medium | |||
| Speech restrictions (when, what, to whom) | Medium | |||
| Washroom restrictions | Hard limit | |||
| Kneeling | Medium | |||
| Crawling | Medium | |||
| Begging | Medium | |||
| Standing in corner | Medium | |||
| Learned postures | Medium | |||
| Rituals | Medium | |||
| Being given a new name | Medium | |||
| Lectures for misbehaviour | Medium | |||
| Physical examinations |
x |
High | ||
| Forced exercise | Medium | |||
| Forced dressing | Medium | |||
| Having clothing chosen for you | Medium | |||
| Having food chosen for you | Soft limit | |||
| Being fed | Medium | |||
| Wearing symbolic jewellery |
x |
High | ||
| Collars (worn in private) |
x |
Medium | ||
| Collars (worn in public) | Medium | |||
| Leashes |
x |
Low | ||
| Chauffeuring | Low | |||
| Housework (doing) | Medium | |||
| Manicures (giving) |
x |
Medium | ||
| Massage (giving) |
x |
High | ||
| Massage (receiving) |
x |
High | ||
| Licking (non-sexual) | Medium | |||
| Serving | High | |||
| Serving as a maid | Medium | |||
| Serving as waitress/waiter | Medium | |||
| Serving other doms (supervised) | Hard limit | |||
| Serving other doms (unsupervised) | Hard limit | |||
| Including others | Low | |||
| Competitions (with other Subs) | Soft limit | |||
| Harems (serving w/other subs) | Hard limit | |||
| Supplying new partners for Dom | Hard limit | |||
| Given away to another Dom (for play) | Hard limit | |||
| Given away to another Dom (for training) | Hard limit | |||
| Given away to another Dom (permanent) | Hard limit | |||
| Consensual non-consent | Medium |
VOYEURISM/EXHIBITIONISM
|
Activity |
Exp. |
Level of interest |
CPO |
Comments |
| Forced nudity (private) |
x |
Medium | ||
| Forced nudity (around others) | Medium | |||
| Exhibitionism (friends) | Soft limit | |||
| Exhibitionism (strangers) | Low | |||
| Modelling for erotic photos |
x |
High | ||
| Video (watching others) | Medium | |||
| Video (recordings of you) | Low | |||
| Voyeurism (watching others) |
x |
Medium | ||
| Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) | Hard limit |
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